I ran a Retreat out here in Goa last month and started by sharing that “crisis = breakthrough”. I had just been through a personal crisis which manifested itself physically, with a cricked neck and back.
I quickly recognised that because I had a serious physical crisis, I was being offered an opportunity to have a profound breakthrough. So often we get stuck in the crisis [the human experience hey… eyeballs rolling… deep sigh!] rather than recognise the ‘seed of equal or greater opportunity’ as Napoleon Hill so wisely shared in Think And Grow Rich.
I love my life, most of the time! I get to travel the world, run life changing retreats, live and work from beach huts, awaken people to their true potential… and ride my motorbike legally without a helmet! I have a great life
And yet despite all the internal work I’ve done, and the freedom I experience, I still return to ‘crisis’ once in a while. To put it less dramatically, I have plenty of my own problems!
It’s clear to me, having worked with thousands of people over the years, that the one thing we can be sure of, is having problems. They are here to stay. Perhaps the best we can hope for then, is better quality problems. And to respond to them in more resourceful ways. To use them for growth and development, rather than diminishing ourselves through them, as we so often do.
Living in beach huts, riding my bike, running retreats.. and growing enormously from my personal challenges… not a bad life!
Tony Robbins said “the only problem we really have is we think we’re not supposed to have problems! Problems call us to higher level.”
I used a metaphor to describe my sense of overwhelm recently. It was like I was redeveloping a house (my business) with a team of people all doing their bit. So exciting!
And yet, as I’m sure you know, before any house is redeveloped, things can appear to get worse. A lot worse. The wiring was metaphorically pulled out, the plaster pulled down, the plumbing not working and there I was in the middle of it all, wondering how on earth I got here, in such a mess. This was NOT my vision for bringing a team of awesome people into my business to take it to the next level. But…
Crisis = Breakthrough
That is, when we believe in that underlying presupposition. One of my gifts is helping people quickly get out of overwhelm or feeling stuck; helping them to get clear on what they really want; and then supporting them to manifest it in their lives. In part, through the use of powerful presuppositions.
You’ll see some people sharing how they’ve experienced that in the beautiful video below, shot by Hannah, one of our team members. And I’ve become pretty good at it. Yet here I was, feeling overwhelmed, stuck and unable to get clear enough to create what I wanted. Talk about taking a dose of your own medicine. As they say, we teach most what we need to learn.
On reflection and with a fair bit of processing in the midst of my overwhelm, a few things became clear. First, this was an opportunity in disguise. An opportunity for me to learn, grow and go to the next level, not just in my business, but in my vision and leadership. Just like I had with my cricked neck and back.
It was clear that I’d got settled into my comfort zone. And paradoxically, I was uncomfortable staying there. Robert Quinn describes this as the normal state that most of us live in. He states that we settle for ‘slow death’. It’s the law of entropy. My comfortable life, swanning around the world, doing what I want when I want, had actually been stopping me for doing the very thing I help others do – to grow! The way out of ‘slow death’ or our comfort zone, is to become purpose or results driven. This requires a new level of vision. The shift according to Quinn is from…
Comfort Driven to Purpose Driven
Self Focused to Other Focused
Externally Directed to Internally Directed
Internally Closed to Externally Open
I had settled for coasting. I had been too self absorbed and comfort driven. But there’s another level for me to operate at in my life and business. There always is. And that for me, was to step up and lead; to commit to a larger vision and purpose. Ultimately, this is what our heart and soul yearns for – to make a difference in the world – in our own unique way. To continue to learn and grow and contribute beyond ourselves. To manifest a vision that lies dormant, in our heart, waiting to be awakened and unleashed in the world.
I had settled for comfort over purpose and lacked a vision compelling enough for me to let go of my comfort and selfish needs.
I recognise of course, that it’s not that comfort isn’t valuable or ok. It’s both, but it’s also a limiter to our personal growth and impact in the world. And with vision and a desire to make an impact out there in the world comes a great deal of energy and inspiration. It’s like the Universe hears our heart yearning to make a difference and conspires toward helping us on our way; to grow and to make the difference we were born to make.
As Judy de Lozier once asked me, how much can you allow the Universe to flow through you? When we have a heartfelt vision to change the world in our unique way – anything becomes possible for us as individuals, communities and the world – as Natalie who joined us in Ibiza so beautifully shares in the video ‘Transformational Journeying’ below.
And so I’ve been exploring, writing and awakening to a larger vision than I’d previously allowed myself to have. One that is compelling enough for me that it enables me to say ‘yes, I’m willing to give up my comfort; yes I’m willing to pay the price of being internally directed rather than externally directed; yes I’m willing to invest in others because I have the energy to know that my own needs are taken care of; the openness to say – oh I’ve got to do something radically different and purpose driven now – in order to be fulfilled at the highest level.
So that’s where I’m at – being present with, unpacking and articulating a new vision and sense of purpose. And right now it looks something like supporting coaches, change agents and people in India, Africa and Europe to create personal freedom as well as loving, learning and supportive communities around them, who are all committed to doing the same. We will never truly know the depth of the impact we have in the world, but we can be sure it ripples out into the eternal present moment in miraculous ways when we learn to love and share our gift with the world lovingly. That’s my vision…
To revolutionise the world of NLP Training so that people on a learning journey have such a profound transformational experience, platform, community and support – before, during and after any course they join – that they are catapulted into creating the vision they have in their heart.
So they not only get this…
Transformational stories and journeys on my retreat in Ibiza last year
But they also get what I talk about below, a whole system of support to help them in making the difference they want to make in the world.
Next month we’ll be sharing more about this and releasing my new website along with details and an Early Bird discount for my next retreat in Ibiza. But for now I’m excited to be launching my latest certified NLP course in Bournemouth – for Practitioner, Master Practitioner and NLP Trainers. Newcomers are also very welcome!
Whether you’re brand new to NLP, or well experienced, you can expect to take your skills, influence and life to the next level. And if you do choose to join us, you’ll be welcomed into a unique environment and community that supports your personal and professional development, through honesty, openness and world class NLP Training and Coaching.
When we discover and step into our place in the world; when we tap into our latent potential – then endless possibilities open up to us, and for us. I invite you to join us on this immersive and exciting journey and begin stepping into your highest vision. You can find full details here.
Book at the early Bird Price now for just £1,500
(monthly instalments available upon request)
I do hope you can join us in Bournemouth on this transformational journey – so that you can accelerate your ability to succeed in creating your personal and professional life – in a way that is full of fun, learning, integrity, deep change and possibility. And make the kind of impact you want to in the world that it and your heart yearns for!
And after spending winter here in Goa, next stop for me is South Africa where I’ll be running a certified Community Development NLP Course in Cape Town. We still have one space left!
In the meantime, I’ll be riding my bike, learning to surf and continuing work with and lead my team and clients into a new level of vision.
And of course at the same time, continuing to clarify the ‘next level’ of my vision; focussing on some of the next steps in that larger process, which include the official launch of our Online School, Global Coaching Community Online Learning Platform and a whole series of transformational live Webinars for those who decide to join our growing, dynamic and loving community. I do hope you join us sometime, somewhere…
What a life! Bring on the problems