Everything is an iteration

I launched my coaching business about a decade ago.

At first I knew nothing about the business of coaching.  Then I knew a little more.

And then I put my toe in the water and found out that I really could make a difference.  But the business of coaching is so different to the world of coaching.

I tried marketing and selling and fell flat on my face!

Since then I’ve tried a hundred and one different ways or models – none of which have lasted.

Some worked for a while.  Some I enjoyed.  Some I loved.  And with some I fell at the first hurdle.

But everything I’ve tried has morphed, changed, developed and evolved into something else.

Everything is an iteration.  Change is the only constant!

Everything is part of a larger process.

Even those things that work for us evolve and change in time; often into something better.

I’m excited about launching my new Online NLP School, but I recognise that whatever I bring to the world will be an iteration.

I have a vision but I know reality will be so very different.  Better!

We all have to learn, grow and develop on this remarkable journey called life.  Apple was path-breaking with the iPhone, but is now lagging behind the competition in many ways.  Not in profits however!  Yet.

There are so many unknowns.  Pioneers can reap rich rewards, but they also face the greatest unknowns.

What we strive for is not always easy, but it’s nearly always worth it.  In some way.  A key part of any journey is the ‘failure’.  That can mean things break, we lose our way, or our phones catch fire!

Failure, necessary endings and the dark nights of the soul give us challenges to grow, creativity to solve issues and empathy to understand more.  They also give us stories to share which deeply engage us in, and with the world.  They are the fuel to propel us to the next level.

But our success is only built upon our foundation of failure.

I’m sure you’ve heard Michael Jordan’s quote, widely recognised as the greatest basketball player of all time…

“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” 

Definition of iteration:  a procedure in which repetition of a sequence of operations yields results successively closer to a desired result.

Everything is an iteration.

So what’s the next iteration?

For me it’s the launch of my online school next month, then an awesome Retreat in Ibiza followed by trips to India and Africa for courses and an epic adventure.

What’s the next iteration for you?

Here to being open

You can’t escape your destiny

You can’t escape your destiny. And you can’t ignore your calling…. Not for long anyway!

Long ago, I remember reading a book that (over) simplified life. It made sense, but as with many theories, they are often somewhat different from our lived experience.

The theory was essentially this.  Whatever happens in life we have two choices: open our heart and energy field or close them down. Open or close. Pretty simple hey?

Sounds easy. But we all know that life is rarely that black and white. It can be so difficult and challenging (when the kids are screaming or we’re confronted with ‘bad’ news, as I was yesterday!) that staying open is the last thing we instinctively do. So we naturally close down, some more than others.

That said, ultimately, over the long term, these are indeed the fundamental choices we have to make as to how we will live our lives. Are we going to continue opening up to ALL that life has to offer or become closed?

Think of the elderly people you know. Can you notice in them which type of person they have chosen to be and how this attitude and response to the external world shows in their face, their energy, body, thoughts and deeds?

For those who are open – to others, to life, to curiosity, staying open, loving themselves and others, to possibility and hope and humility – they discover a sense of calling. And that calling ultimately leads them to an astounding destiny.

But for those cynics, the doubters, the angry, the ones who need to be right, who hate and judge and are closed minded, their destiny is equally assured – at the opposite end of the spectrum.

When I asked Chris Hall for her take on God, she replied with “well I know that there are forces far greater than me in this Universe… and that somehow everything is connected… and well, I don’t necessarily know what to call it… but I know it calls me“.

When we are open and we stay open, we can hear the voice of love, of truth and possibility – the voice of God, the Universe, Great Spirit – call it what you will.  All cultures, religions and people have their own word for it. I’ve heard ‘it’ referred to as energy, vibration and spirit to name a few.  Either way, ‘it’ exists.

Even scientists agree. They might call ‘it’ the voice of reason, objective truth, evidence, quantum physics, String theory, the Multi-verse or even common sense, but they agree that there is order and truth and that there are answers to our complex world, which they continually search for.

That’s our destiny – to make sense in our own unique way of this complex and often deeply challenging world… and to help others do the same.

We can stay open to the fact that we will all close down at some point in life, but know that we don’t need to stay closed. We need to do the work.  At the highest level we must stay open to live fully.

As surely as flowers needs water, light and nutrients to grow, we too need to nourish our heart, mind and soul so that it can open, flourish and radiate beauty for all the world to see.

So here’s to being open!

Love, Tristan