It’s a BIG question!
How old will you be in 20 years time?
Quite probably, you’re in the prime of your life and in 20 years, some of the best years of your life will be behind you!
And if you’re anything like me, the years are flying by… each one passing by quicker and quicker, still offering hope of new opportunities and possibilities in your life. But they are passing by and there is nothing we can do to slow the relentless march of time.
There are only 20 years now until I am 60! But it seems like yesterday that I was having fun at school and University… not a care and all the time in the world to enjoy life.
But now time has moved on. When I think about the richness of my life and the significant things I tend to do each year, the things that mark out the passing of each year – I go to South Africa every year, spend winters in India and then run a Retreat in Ibiza each October – there are only 20 more of these until I’m 60!
Of course there will probably be another 20 quality years after that. At least I hope!
But by then I’ll be 70 or 80. How about you?
I’m aware of just how precious, significant and meaningful each and every moment is, and yet I still find myself wasting time, doing things that really aren’t that important or fulfilling and missing out on the real joy of life, that is available to us in each moment, if only we’d filter our experience through that lens.
How do you measure the years that pass by? Maybe it’s your kids birthdays, or Christmases or New Years. Or perhaps its your summer holiday, your own Birthday or summer festivals. What is it that lets you measure the passing of time, of each precious year?
And what’s it like to think that you’ll have another 20 or so of those years before you reach the latter stages of your life?
What changes are being asked of you in order for you to make the most of your little… and the very precious time you have left here on planet Earth with health, vibrancy and your youth?
And perhaps more importantly, what are you committed to in your life to ensure that you continue to be healthy, vibrant and youthful with each year that passes? For me, an example of this kind of commitment is daily meditation. I also do Feldenkrais most days which improves awareness through movement. Both have been, and continue to be, life changing for me.
It is so sad for me to watch people who are sometimes 60 or 70 and I can see they are only going one way physically and mentally. What is inspiring however, are those examples of people who take up ball room dancing at the age of 85 and are yoga instructors at the age of 96!!
My good friend Emily Hilton wrote two books – Cancer Healed Me and Follow Your Pink Bliss – what a wonderful legacy in which she continues to touch people with her presence even though she’s no longer with us in person.
So, how will you be remembered? Who do you want to be remembered as? What’s your legacy?
Barbara Waugh, former manager of world wide organisational development at HP, has asked the question, “What is the story worth living your life for?”
I think this is the question of a lifetime, and the beautiful thing is that we get to decide.
Of course we all have a ‘but’. But, how do I… but how can I… but.. but.. but!
Once you remove the ‘buts’ and commit to begin exploring the story worth living your life for, a whole new world opens up. I can promise you that. I’ve lived most of my life inside the ‘but’ paradigm. I still go there from time to time. But I can guarantee you there is always more beyond the but.
So, if you feel like you might need a little help with this, then join me in Ibiza for a life changing Retreat this October or you can always request a powerful coaching conversation to remove the barriers to the story really worth living your life for.
With love and inspiration, Tristan